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 INNER SELVES OFTEN REFLECT ARCHETYPES

Inner selves are often very similar to characters from the world of drama, films and TV such as Rhett Butler, Shirley Valentine or Xena, characters from bedtime stories and ancient myths and legends such as Aphrodite, Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty; and from real life historical dramas such as George Washington or Captain Bligh. All these best loved or most hated figures have become favourites because they reflect archetype selves (the most common and most typical inner selves for so many people) so it is not at all surprising to find an inner self adopting a name that goes with their energy or personality.

Do not forget for one moment that almost all selves are paired as energetic opposites. So whatever name you see below is only one of a pair. See The Great Law of Energetic balance and Polarised Selves and Flipping pages.


SOME OF THE MOST COMMON PRIMARY SELVES INCLUDE:


Rule maker

"Caretaker

"Pleaser "

Peacekeeper

Inner Critic

Nurturing parent

Rational Analytical Logical Mind (RAT for short)

Open Honest & Blunt

Pusher

Freedom Fighter

Happy Face

Responsible Parent

Rebel or Mutineer

Scheduler

Professional

Knower

Judge

Critical Parent

Permission Seeker

Victim


TYPICAL PROTECTOR PRIMARY SELVES

Commonly found selves that operate by setting up conditions for example

"We'll do what you want provided you don't make us feel vulnerable"


Academic (Good Student)

Anaesthetist

Analyser

Caretaker

Cartoon Character

CEO (Captain)

Character Player

Cinderella

Commander

Controller

Cowboy

Defender (Soldier)

Diplomat

Doctor Parent

Doormat

Earth Mother

Evaluator

Farmer

Fixer

Good Son/Daughter

Good/Caring Parent

Happy Soul

Heavyweight Protector

Hero

Historical Figure

Inner Cynic

Inner Satirist

Intellectual Thinker

Joker/Clown

Judge

Kindly Grandparent

Lawyer

Logical Thinker

Lost In The Woods

Magistrate

Martyr

Matriarch

Moralist

Morally Pure

Mother Protector

Mother Superior

Movie Actor

Navigator

Nice Person

Nun

Omnipotent

Outspoken

Patriarch

Peace At Any Price

People Controller

Perfectionist

Permission Seeker

Perpetual Victim

Pleaser (Nice Self)

Politician

Power Self

Priest

Professional Self

Psychologist Parent

Pusher

Radar (Vigilant)

Rebel (Mutineer)

Relaxed

Responsible Mother

Reverend (Pastor)

Rule Maker

Satirist

Scripted

Self Critic

Self Controller

Soldier

Very Good Person

Vigilant (Radar)


CHARACTER PLAYERS  -TV AND Movie Characters

 Xena

Wonder Woman

Hercules

Cartoon Characters

Historical Figures

Ethnic Figures


Any of the above protector selves can be primary selves for you or another individual


TYPICAL HIGH INTENSITY (Dramatic Energy) SELVES

High Intensity selves are less logical, more animal and instinctual, using drama, cunning, confusion, high-levels of energy or manipulation to draw attention away from the vulnerable selves. They "protect" by being so intense that no one notices the vulnerable self behind the protector.


Always Right

Always Wrong

Avoider

Bridge Dynamiter

Captain Bligh

Catastrophiser

Confused

Denial

Distancer

Dramatic Rebel

Engulfment Avoider

Exaggerator

False Vulnerability

Generaliser

Hanging Judge

Intimacy Avoider

Knower Group

Matriarch

Manipulator

Medicator/Addict

Negative Parent

Negative-controller

Out of Control

Parent-critic

Patriarch

Psychologist Parent

Psychological Knower

Punisher

Rebel

Resentment

Scapegoat

Seductive

Snobbish

Victim-Controller


TYPICAL DISEMPOWERING (YOU CAN’T DO IT) SELVES

Disempowering selves stop you experiencing your real power, your real ability and block your emotional growth, because they believe their way is the best for keeping you out of pain. They treat the risk of vulnerability as being as bad as vulnerability itself and they associate ‘taking action’ with the risk of pain or worse. These are the selves that are often most responsible for disowning your natural power selves and your adult ‘I Can Do It’ abilities.


Avoider

Catastrophiser

Chronically Unaware

Confused

Denial

Distancer

Don’t Expect Too Much

False Vulnerability

Fear of Intimacy

Fear of Anger

Fear of Failure

Fear of Success

Forgetful

Leave It To Others

Medicator / Addict

Negative-controller

Permission Seeker

Pessimist

Procrastinator

Scapegoat

Untruthful

Victim

We Can’t Do It

We Can’t Win

 


TYPICAL DISOWNED SELVES

Even the disowned selves are protectors, in the sense that by staying disowned, they save the vulnerable selves from being shamed, blamed or hurt. By keeping right out of the picture, they do not put the vulnerable selves at risk.


    Adulterer/fornicator

    Adventurer

    Amway person

    Angry Child

    Animal

    Aphrodite (Goddess of Love)
   Authentic

    Bard

    Crude/Vulgar

    Can’t say “No”

    Don Juan

    Dionysius (God of Ecstasy)

    Experimenter

    Explorer

    Fantasy Person

    Gay

    Gypsy

    Inner Goddess

    Immoral

    Jezebel

    Joy

    Lost Child

    Magical Mystical Child

    Marketer Merchandiser

    Mutineer

    Natural Anger

    Peace keeper

    Pirate

    Resentment

    Romantic

    Self Centred

    Sensual Lover

    Sexual Self

    Tiger/cat

    Whore

    Wicked/Demonic

    Wild one


SOME TYPICAL PRIVATE AND HIDDEN (VULNERABLE) PARTS


The private and hidden (too vulnerable) parts or not really selves. Rather they are parts of our personailty that the inner selves are wanting to protect. These are the parts that help you to get closer to others and to yourself, and give you the power to show your most vulnerable feelings. It is the openness and naturalness of the private parts that makes them (and you) lovable, worth nurturing, caring for, protecting and safe to be with.


    Abandoned

    Spiritual Self

    Randy/Flirt

    Warrior

    Rebel

    Great Lover

    Lost child

    Rule Breaker

    Guilty

    Frightened

    Lonely

    Worthless

    Resentful

    Vulnerable child


If you would like to add some of your selves to this page there is still plenty of room.

E-mail me, John Bligh Nutting  Click here to e-mail your list



NOTE: In the Growing Awareness program the term "Grown-up Aware Adult" is not the same as or used used in place of the "Aware Ego" as Hal and Sidra use the term. The term "Grown-up Aware Adult" also reflects many of the characteristics of the part Hal and Sidra call the "Awareness Self" or "The Watcher"  I find this variation easier for Australians to understand, particularly as the term "ego" in Australia has so many different connotations and meanings for people (some of them quite negative)


 

Your Free Inner Self Profile Sheet

For many years I have been using an Inner Self profile sheet that allows you to keep a visual record of your inner selves as you meet and talk with them. There are different places for different kinds of selves on the sheet according to their different energies or the different ways they do things to protect you.

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   The Top 100 Inner Selves


A LIGHT HEARTED LIST OF TYPICAL SELVES YOU MEET EACH DAY


Please don’t take this list seriously! There really is no ‘official’ list of the inner selves by name and certainly no ‘Top 100’ because the inner selves are so unique and individual for each person.  However many people have asked me for a list of names and this is just a rough collection. There are many more, not listed here, so feel free to add your own and drop me an E-mail telling me about them so I can include them here. Click here to e-mail your list

Grouping the names under different headings, as I have done, does not mean that these selves will always belong there. A primary self in my list may be one that is disowned in yours. One of your private and hidden selves may be a High Intensity self on someone else’s list. That explains why (as you will notice) I have included the same name under two or more headings.


This is just a list of many typical Inner selves