There are lots of inner selves like super-
When you are under the influence of an impersonal self, you will feel more protected because it helps you maintain a safer distance and better separation from other people. So if you need strong protection and strong boundaries the impersonal selves can do the job. Your boundary system operates best however when it is runing from your grown-
Impersonal topics keep you more protected and less connected
When we are using our impersonal channel we keep rather carefully to safe topics, that is topics of conversation that will keep the discussion safely away from anything which might bring up or even give the other person a hint as to our vulnerability. The less connected you feel, the better protected you are. So, most impersonal conversation does not even get as far as revealing much at all about what we are feeling.
Notice also how few of the topics below involve anything that the people talking about have any power to change, fix or improve no matter how they feel about the topic.
Typical impersonal topics might be more about:
There may be some feelings that we feel safe sharing on our impersonal channel. Sharing your impersonal feelings might involve telling other people more about how you were stressed during the day. They don’t tell much at all about any personal issues or who you really are or what’s going on inside you. It's more likely that they will help illustrate what you do when you connect with other people through your impersonal channels.
Examples of less personal or impersonal feelings:
I am feeling busy, energised, successful, happy, hopeful, hurt, horny, disappointed, depressed, respected, valued, I feel I don’t matter, I feel worthwhile, worthless, anxious, frustrated, angry, tired.
Notice that with impersonal feelings it’s very easy to conclude that it is another person who is largely the cause of that particular feeling. This is of course one of the deepest issues that we need to change.
FALSE IMPERSONAL FEELINGS
The following negative expressions are not sharing any real feeling, even an impersonal one. Examples: “I feel that you ..(don’t care)….(are angry with me)” or
“I feel that they…..(don’t like me)….(are trying to manipulate me)….(just want … xxx …from me) etc.”
If the words “I feel” are followed by a reference to someone else, it is an impersonal thought or prediction. If there is a feeling behind the impersonal thought it might be for example, fear, stress hurt or anger but this is being hidden.
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